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Daniel Aaron:
What does it take to create a vibrant, thriving life? First, the sad news is that Thoreau was right. Most people are leading quiet lives of desperation, lacking in meaning, fulfillment, and vitality. But we choose more. We choose to create extraordinary lives and the art of vibrant living. Show entertains you with inspiration, empowerment and education to create your life into a masterpiece. It's time. Let's vibe up. Hello. Hi, y'all. Daniel Aaron here with you. I am the host, your host of the Vibrant Living Show. And good news, bad news, bad news, good news, the bad news. The bummer news is Jesse Johnson, my guest for today is not able to make it. Something came up. Good news. She's okay. Other good news is I got some exciting stuff for y'all. I have been brewing on thinking about some. Well, okay, I'll go out on a limb. The most important information that I've ever discovered. Maybe the most important information that you'll ever hear. Because three things I'm going to share with you if you take these things on board, if you understand them. And and I'll make it easy to do so and apply them in your life. You can literally create whatever you want, okay. Big promises. Let's get into it. So the art of vibrant living. What does that mean? Okay, here's here's my promise. Here's what I will deliver for you today. By the way, what's the story with this? How did we get into this? You may not know anything about me. So in case you don't, and if you're watching live or by rebroadcast, love to hear from you, minus the subject. I would love to hear from you, so feel free to comment as we go. This is a bit of a different show. I don't usually, um, go for any kind of comments in the middle of things because I'm focused on speaking with my guest, and today it's you and me. We're here together, so and if you're tuning in by Rebroadcast Replay, then feel free to comment and I will happily respond to you. Now, part of what informs me for this conversation, and again, we may not know each other at all.

Daniel Aaron:
You may know nothing about me is 30 years ago. Yep. 30 years ago. I got a divine two by four upside the head, which blew up my life in beautiful ways. When my feet came back down to the ground, I got obsessed with personal and spiritual development. I'm still obsessed. And now 30 years later, having worked with hundreds of clients, thousands and tens of thousands of students, having invested over $750,000 in my own education, meaning with the best mentors and coaches in the world that I could get access to, right? This is what I've come to. Three things that empower you to create whatever you want. And because I speak more often about one and two, we'll go deeper into number three. I'm really excited about this because speaking with a private client yesterday, we came up with the name for my new book. All right. So one is creating. It's creating Who you are. Simple concept. Maybe we'll speak more about later. Is you are. You are, we are I am. You know these words I am most powerful words in English language, in any language. Because whatever follows, that becomes our identity. It is who we are. It's our being. So first piece here is who we are Being determines everything in our life. And even better news, we can observe who we're being. We can look and say, who am I being? Even better news we can change who we are being. So the first part of it's an inverted triangle, by the way. Right. Inverted triangle. First part up here is creating, being creating who we are being. If we create who we are being in a conscious way. And we could speak at length about what that means. In short terms though, it's creating a manifesto and you could call it a personal vision vision statement. You could call it a document, you could call it a set of declarations. I call it a manifesto. I call it the Supreme Self Manifesto. Right. And what that means is we all have within us at least two parts. One is what I call the Supreme self.

Daniel Aaron:
It's who we are at our highest potential. It's it's us at our best. It's us who we came here to be. And then on the other side, it's what Phil Stutz calls part X. We all have that too, right? If we're human and that part is afraid, lazy, tired, excuses, weak, right? We all have that. We all have access to, that we all have access to that. So what makes the difference? Well, maybe not quite as simple as that old saying. Well, it depends which dog you feed. Well, yeah. Yes. And it also depends on do we invest the time, the energy, the thought, the feeling, summon the courage to get clear on who we are. Right? Who this supreme self is right. Most people don't. Right. And you know, not not not to blame anybody, but most people don't because busy with survival. Right. We haven't been taught that we can do that. So how do we do that. Well, we could speak at length about how, in simple terms, the way I put it is we create a manifesto, a list, a document, right? You write it out, you type it out. This is who I am, right? And some of it's just plain true. I am a perfect, glorious being of God and substitute universe, nature, whatever. There's no arguing that, right? That's just true. And then some of it is aspirational. One of mine, I say every day I write, every day I am unconditional love and prodigious patience. I aspire to that meaning. But there are days when I'm not unconditional love. There are days and there are moments when I am not patient. So that's okay. I'm declaring I'm putting it up here in my Supreme Self Manifesto. This is who I am. And right in those moments when I'm when I'm not that I learn, I adjust and much more quickly because I've got this as my standard up here. This is what I'm called to. Right. More on that later. Well, no, right now, because the creation of the manifesto document set of declarations is cool.

Daniel Aaron:
Except if that's all we do, it actually could make things worse. How's that right? How could like if a company makes a vision statement, right? A mission statement vision statement. Is that good or bad? Well, depends. Right? It's not good or bad. Probably, you know, not the best words for this. So here's the thing. Here's the challenge. If we invest the time, whether it's our personal manifesto, a business, uh, mission statement, vision statement, whatever, if we invest the time to create that, what we're doing is we're consciously looking into what could be called the divine matrix, the field of infinite possibilities. We're looking into the future, right? We're looking into the spirit world. And part of what we're doing is we're saying, hey, in that field of infinite possibilities, this I choose, this, I plant that seed, I create that. That's. Cool. That's powerful. Right. And if that's all we do, though, if we don't discover and create an effect, a way of connecting to it, activating it, cultivating it on a daily basis, on a regular basis, well, then what we're doing in some way is we're saying, this is who I am. This is possible. Right? And then we go back to sleep and we forget it. And that's even worse. Why? Because now we've seen this incredible possibility. In fact, we've we've tasted it. Part of us feels that is possible. I know it is. Yet then if we're not doing anything to live it, there's going to be another part of us that's like, you know, bummed out, like, because I know this is possible, yet I'm settling for these. This over here. It's a little bit like one of my heroes, Ram Dass. Right? Ram Dass, formerly Richard Alpert, right, was one of the early pioneers. Let me make sure that I'm in the right place. Yeah, I'm in the right place. So if there are comments, feel free. I'm just checking to see if there are any. Sometimes I get excited. I'm not looking. Richard Alpert, before he became Ram Dass, was one of the early pioneers in the realm of psychedelic research.

Daniel Aaron:
It wasn't called that then LSD experiments, he said. In the early part of this, we would take a bunch of acid LSD, and then we would see God. We would see the universe. We'd see our place in the whole. And then two days later, his words, I'd be the same old asshole I was before. Right? And that's part of the challenge. Part of what he discovered in a bunch of others have discovered is just to see the possibility. Right. And even, you know, one of the problems with plant medicine can be for a lot of people is temporarily we get clear of all the baggage, all the stuff that's held us back, the negative beliefs, the false identities. We get clear of that. We see the potential, we touch it, we feel it, but then it evaporates. Right? Then our old habits, our conditioning pulls us back. We, you know, in design like Photoshop, they have this thing called snap to the grid, which makes design really a lot easier and cool. It's even in Canva, right? And it means when you get close to the line, it'll get right to it. And it's kind of a similar thing for us, right? We can we can grow, we can evolve, we can taste our potential. And then if if we're not staying in touch with that, cultivating it, activating it, I'll say more on that in a moment. Then what happens? We snap to the grid. We snap back to who we were. So creating the manifesto. Creating the vision. Awesome. Cool. Essential, right? That's one. That's the first. Uh, it's not a corner in a triangle. What do you call that a point? It's the first point of this inverted triangle. The second point over here is cultivation activation. And that means that yes, we create the manifesto and we work with it consciously on a daily basis. Now you could say on a regular basis, okay, on a daily basis though, because hey, guess what, right. Circadian rhythms. There's some reason that in this 3D world we live in, the sun rises and the sun sets.

Daniel Aaron:
There's some reason why you and I wake up in the morning. We're born and in the at night we go to sleep. We die. Right? There's a reason for that. And every day we have this beautiful opportunity to create ourselves. In fact, every day we are creating ourselves. The only question with that is how well are we doing it? How intentionally are we doing it? Are we getting the results we want from that creation? So when it comes to cultivation activation, the second point, the way I speak of it is I have a self creation process, right? What I work with for myself, what I work with, with my clients, private or group clients is we create ourselves intentionally every day. We've got a practice, a process. I call it the Supreme self, sacrament, sacrament. I don't know, it could sound like a term from religion, right? I don't know what it sounds like to you when I first said, what do we call this? Right. Like call it spiritual practice, but that means so many things to different people. We could call it daily rituals. That's cool. That's true. We could call it the stuff we do, right? Whatever. But to me, sacrament, because it contains that essence of sacred right, Supreme self, sacrament plus three S's. That's kind of cool, right? So Supreme self sacrament, it's a set of practices or rituals, things we do on a daily basis. We're not just saying, well, I hope I remember that vision. No, we're saying I call that vision into existence. I create it, I energize it, and I think of it as self creation. It's intentional. Every day I create myself in an intentional way. What does that look like? Well, the core aspect of it for me and the way I work with clients is I'm reaching over here for props, right? Is I have a notebook and I have a ritual. And part of my ritual is after I've done the basic things, you know, drink some lemon water, pee, wash my face, brush my teeth. Right then actually tell you this before I get to my journal.

Daniel Aaron:
Before that, I make some special drink. I don't mean ayahuasca and I don't mean whiskey. Special drink for me is Ticino. I get no commissions from Ticino. I'm just saying I like it. I'm not in the caffeine realm. I invite you, though, to romanticize your self creation ritual. Make it so you love doing it, in fact. So I make this special tea, which I really love, and I love the warm drink of it. And it's, you know, not yet. Sunrise when I get to my sanctuary, my studio. Right, my special place. And. And then I light a candle. And you know what? I know that it's not going to save me or change the world. I love burning some palo santo, though, right? The smell of it, it helps helps me create this, like specialness to this sacrament, to this ritual makes it helps me feel like it's sacred. And then write with a candle and my journal I write. And what do I write? How do I write? Do I write letters to my fairy godmother? No. Maybe I don't know. What I do write, though, is I start with these words. These are the words that are beginning of my sacrament. These are not going to be the words that fit for you. They might be. You can take them and play with them. Write some of the pieces that are in my, um, manifesto. Some of the words in my manifesto are words I heard in other places. And I was like, oh, I like that. I'm going to take that. Remember what Pablo Picasso said? Good artists borrow, great artists steal. Right. So part of what that means for me is I write these words. The words that I start with every day are, we are and we are creating. That's a reminder. Now I can tell you why I use we rather than I. I'll get to that. More common is I am and I am creating. Both are true, just nuances to it. Why does it start with that? It starts with that. Because that's a reminder, right?

Daniel Aaron:
And part of this activation cultivation is to remind myself of the manifesto of who I'm becoming. So the reminder we are and we are creating is we're always being we are. And because we are. Because I am. Because you are, we are, I am. You are creating can't help it. That's nature. We are always creating, consciously or unconsciously. Then my manifesto has a whole bunch of statements, a bunch of declarations and what I do as my myself. Creation process unfolds right in the sweet dark with the sounds of the roosters out there. Maybe some days I even hear the ocean. I write declarations, and not just that, I write a declaration and then I listen. I write it, and then I listen to my body, my heart, my mind, and see what comes next when I write that thing. Does it resonate? Do I believe it? Or does some little part of me doubting go, nah, you're not unconditional love. And I go, okay, that's interesting. Oh, there's a thought to the contrary. So I gotta get right into that, because that's that's the juice of this conversation right now. Is it a conversation? I think it's a monologue, right. In any case. Um, first though. Right. And that's going to bring us down to the bottom of the inverted triangle. Right, or inverted pyramid activation cultivation. That's up here. That's the top uh, point here along with writing it. After I journal and write. Then I speak and I speak out the full set of declarations, the full manifesto. And when I do that, I'm also listening. Right? I'm also imagining, visualizing, seeing. Most importantly, I'm feeling right. I'm feeling those declarations. What I'm creating, that state of being inside myself. So now let's just quick review. We've we've covered briefly the top of the inverted pyramid, the manifesto and the sacrament. Write the document, the set of declarations and the process, the self-creation process, the activation and cultivation of this manifesto. So what's this bottom part? Oh, it's the ground, it's the foundation. It's the part without which this does not work.

Daniel Aaron:
And in fact makes it worse. Mm. How does that work? Okay. Are you ready for the title of my next book? So grateful to the amazing conversation with Private Client yesterday where we came up with this. We created it together. Right. It is. Give the mouse the mic. Okay. What does that mean? Give the mouse the mic. Okay, so here's how we got to that. This part down here, without it, these parts don't work because it's like. It's like a bucket with holes in it. You can pour all kinds of great stuff into that bucket. But if there's if there are holes in the bottom, it's all just going to go through. What that equates to for us is the voices of doubt, fear, judgment. So for instance, if I declare I'm a radiant child of God, that's not in my manifesto. I have something like that. But that's not what I declare. That. And then right away, as soon as I declare that whether it's in writing or speaking and I'm listening, not just blurting it out, running along to the next one, that doesn't do any good. I'm, I'm, I'm activating it and then feeling and listening inside my body and my heart and my head. If then I get a little voice that goes, nuh uh, you are not, Then say, oh, that's like the mouse in the corner, right? A little mouse in the corner over there. We normally don't pay attention to it, right? Maybe it says, no, you're not radiant. Or maybe our declaration is I live abundance. And then the little mouse voice goes, nah, you never have enough, right? Maybe the declaration is I am beloved, right? And then maybe the little voice goes, nah. Nobody cares about you and I'm just making stuff up. You know what I'm talking about, though, because that's part of part X. We all have little voices. Sometimes they're bigger than little, right? Self-judgments and this is part of why affirmations have been shown to not only be ineffective, not always, but a lot of the time they can be ineffective. They can actually be harmful.

Daniel Aaron:
How could they be harmful? I am wonderful, I am amazing, people love me, I am sexy, I am rich, right? Great, right? Yes. Say those things. Unless as soon as we say that, then the other little voice comes in and says, nuh uh, you are not right. And that's what happens for a lot of us. And then here's the tragic thing that happens to so many big hearted, well-meaning people, especially in new agey and self-development worlds, is we've been trained to push that voice down, to say, no, right? I'm not going to listen to you. I'm blocking that out. Well, what happens when we push something away? It pushes back. What happens if we shove something into the closet? What happens if something's in the dark? It gets stronger, it gets bigger. It gets more powerful. You know how it goes. What we resist persists. So. Or the other one, which is okay. The other the other tactic that we often find is we hear that little voice, you know, it's tiny, that negative voice, the voice of self-judgment. It's a little it's probably mean. Puts us down in some way. Maybe it's a familiar voice. Maybe it's something we heard from our parents or somebody else. You're no good. You're never going to amount to anything, right? You're lazy. You're worthless. Whatever. Right? Great. Great book on this, by the way, cherry Huber's book called oh, the name will come back to me. Um, meditator. Buddhist. It's been a while since I've read it. You're okay? No, that's not it. It's a book about self-hate. Right. Anyway, I'll. The title will come back to me. Cherry CAGR. Huber. Huber. You can find it. In any case, the other tactic we use often if we're not shushing that voice, the other tactic we use is I'm going to replace that voice. I'm going to speak so loud. I'm going to repeat the affirmation. It's, you know, we can reprogram ourself. And that's part of what mantra is from Hindu tradition. And there can be value in that for sure.

Daniel Aaron:
Right. Good. Yeah. Mantra. Except for that little voice still has power. There's still a hole in the bucket. So here's the radical thing. Radical. Because I don't know many people doing this, using it. Radical because it's changed my life. And again, 30 years, $750,000 I've invested into this stuff personal and spiritual development. It's one of the three most important things I know, and it is invite the mouse to the stage. Give the mouse the mic. What does that mean? In practical terms? It means as soon as we hear that little voice, right, the voice of doubt or self-judgment or self-criticism or self-hate, right? Whatever that undermining little voice message is, we, instead of shushing it, instead of banishing it, instead of throwing something at it, or just trying to drown it out with our positive statements. Instead of doing that, we say, hey, I hear you. Come up here. Come over here. Right? We invite the mouse up to it and I'm, you know, I'm speaking to you. There's a desk in front of me, and I make a little stage, a little spot right here. Right? A little spot for the mouse, a little stage, and with a little tiny mic. And I say, go ahead. You've got the floor. I'm ready to listen to you. Please. What do you think? What? What do you feel? What do you see? Tell me. Let's go ahead. Right. And sometimes for me personally, like, that's like I recognize as I go, as I'm going through my self creation process, I recognize, right? I declare this and then part of me is like, oh, I don't know. And a fear comes up or self-judgment comes up like, oh, I'm afraid of that, right? Maybe I've got a declaration like, like, well, I do here. No, not maybe. Let me give you an actual one. I am sorry, we are. That spirit moves through us scintillating, unfiltered and immediate expression. What does that mean? Right? What it means is I trust in the divine. I trust in God. I trust that whatever comes me to speak is worthy of me speaking.

Daniel Aaron:
And I will say it. I won't engage in debate, questioning myself. Should I stay this? Should I not say this? No. What I'm affirming? What I'm declaring is that I speak right and then as I declare that written or verbally, then that mouse might say, yeah, but I'm afraid of what they'll think. I'm afraid of what they'll say. I'm afraid of what will happen. I say, oh, okay. So I invite the mic, I invite the mouse to the mic and I say, what else? And so what that might look like for me is I write, I'm afraid of judgment. I'm afraid of criticism. I'm afraid of offending people. I'm afraid they won't like me. I'm afraid people will judge me. I'm afraid I will mess up. I'm afraid I'll look like an idiot. I'm afraid that, um. I'll ostracize people. Where's a big word? I'm afraid that I'll piss people off. Right. Whatever. If I give the mouse the mic, what that translates to is I'm giving voice to that. I'm going to let that part of me, part X, I'm going to let it speak. I'm afraid. Right? Or I am worthless. I'm lazy. I am pathetic, right? If I have a little whisper of a voice that has one of those judgments, I say, okay, mouse, what else? What else do you think? It's really me. It's just a part of me. What else do you think? And so I write it all out now. Why? Why do I do that? Because if I don't, it has the power. That's the holes that stay in the bucket, right? My one of my mentors, Steve Hardison, he calls this if you just declare something without compassionate self-forgiveness first without taking care of the mouse. Right. What you're doing is putting frosting on poop, right? It's like building your castle on quicksand. There's that great quotation from Emerson Thoreau. I get them confused sometimes. They're both amazing. They were buddies. They said cool stuff. And I think it was Thoreau. He said, if you've built castles in the air, good.

Daniel Aaron:
I'm paraphrasing now. That's where they should be. Now put the foundation under them. And what does that translate to? For us? It means if you've got a vision of who you are, what you can create in the world, what's possible. Good. That's up in the air. Now build the foundation. How do you build the foundation? You make the ground solid. You do that through giving the mouse the mic through compassionate self forgiveness. It's not easy that by the way, right in in my group program, when we get to this part of the content, I say, all right, we're going to look at all the things the mouse says. We're going to look at all those self judgments, all the mean things we say about ourselves, all the unresourceful beliefs and stories we hold against ourselves. Right. We're going to we're going to open up. We're going to attend to those we're going to be curious about. We're going to write those down. I say Welcome to Hell week. It's not fun, it's painful, and it's liberation. So I also call it Liberation Week because when we see those, when we attend to them, when we give them the mic, then we can release them, right? Then we can let them go. This, by the way, is one of the core most important aspects of self love, right? Self-love. I know oftentimes we think of self-love as lighting candles and taking a bath or getting a massage. That's maybe that's self-care and care so much about the linguistics of it. The terminology self-love, though, is learning to love ourselves, practicing loving ourselves. One of my favorite things about Steve Hardison I mentioned earlier, um, he has an extraordinary capacity to love. And people report this often that they spend just even a few minutes with them and they feel so loved, cared for, seen. And when asked, how do you do that? How does that happen? He's like, because I love myself that much. For most of us, that's not natural. Natural? It's not normal. It's not the way it usually goes. Right for most of us. Like there are a few people that, um, from the very earliest age, they were just loved and loved and loved and accepted a lot of others of us, though our parents didn't know how to do that so well.

Daniel Aaron:
So self love might be right. Looking in the mirror and saying, I love you, I love myself, I love myself. That's a great practice. Creating a loop, a mental loop like that. It's also giving voice, allowing the space to hear the negative things, the unloving things we say about ourselves and letting them go, releasing them. Right. So. A little story. A new friend of mine told this story to me just just last week. She. Has been evolving in her spirituality. And she's moved deeply into Christianity. Right. And she's moved. And I'm not saying this is good or right or bad. I'm just this is reporting a story, right? And part of her exploration and deepening into Christianity. And you could call it being born again or being saved or just deepening. Part of that for her has led her to experiment with something that's new for her. What is which is no pre-marital sex. Or said another way, sexuality happens in a marriage when there is a sacred bond. I'm not saying that's right or wrong. This is what she chose, she said. Yeah, that makes sense to me. I'm going to do that. That's how I'm going to live now. And so putting that into practice, though, was challenging for her because, well, how would they say it? In Christianity, maybe the flesh is weak. There was temptation. Maybe because she also has certain behaviors and habits from before she believed this anyway. One of the things she did in her deepening of Christianity, she she she got a mentor and a mentor who is a amazing and amazing couple, deeply immersed in Christianity, living with them, and partially because she knew that they would help her uplift to live more into those values and those practices. Well, while this was going on, she she got together with a man who she really loved, and it was a beautiful relationship. And even though she had it in her mind, we're not going to be sexual. Well, she was right. And, you know, for all of us, I think the the best intentions around that kind of thing can crumble in the midst of desire.

Daniel Aaron:
Well, that's something like what happened for her. Well, turns out with not a lot of activity, she got pregnant. So not only did she get pregnant shortly after that, she realized that, you know, in her words, she hadn't been seeing the dude clearly. And she's not. He was not someone she wanted to be married to or have a relationship with or have a child with. She was so mortified. Embarrassed, ashamed. She decided to get an abortion. She had an abortion and she knew that her mentors would. Well, actually, let me rephrase that. We don't know what she knew. She believed that her mentors would be upset, would judge her not only for the sex, but actually for the abortion. So what you do, understandably, what a lot of us would do in that situation. She didn't tell him, right. She kept it a secret. So. And she told me this story the other day. I'm listening to the story. You know, I appreciated her vulnerability. And what I heard is shame. I heard her self-judgment, and. And my heart broke open a bit because I knew. And I felt for her that the secret. Right. Which is kind of like it's maybe a little different version, but it's kind of like driving the mouse away. You got to get out of here, right? And what that resulted in for her is, well, that relationship broke down fairly quickly, you know, because every time she was with them, she wasn't really with them because in between for her was this thing that she judged herself, this secret, this thing she wasn't sharing. What it reminded me of is some years ago and I was leading transformational events. An exercise we used to do sometimes was we'd say, hey, here's an opportunity in a group of people where there have whether there was trust, where there was confidentiality, where there was a very safe container, we'd say, here's an opportunity to tell something you haven't told others, right, to come clean. Interesting phrasing. Right? To confess, to let it out. Right. And it was always fascinating. What would come from that, right? There was one for me, actually, that came in the midst of that when I was 16 years old, had my first car.

Daniel Aaron:
My first car was such a dud of a car, had holes in the floor and the stereo didn't work. But I really wanted to be cool and have my own music. So what I did is I had this old, uh, like interviewers cassette player. It was really for recording an interview, but it would play a cassette like an old fashioned cassette. And I had that down here in the console next to me driving, and I would play, you know, my audio cassettes as I drove to school. Well, it's a little bit hard to operate. It was down here, not up here in the dash. One day as I'm driving to school, um, driving along a little bit late, going a little faster than I should be. And, you know, the cassettes flip, you know, needs to be flipped over. So I'm trying to flip it over. I lost my attention, veered a little bit to the left, hit a curb, went into the median, messed up the tires, got a flat tire. I was so embarrassed. I felt like an idiot. So what did I do? I lied. You know what I said? I said somebody ran me off the road. Oh my goodness, it's so embarrassing when I think of it now. Except for ha! I let it out. I brought the the the mouse to the mic on that one. I did this a while back in that exercise and I said, okay, go ahead, say it right. And I found the connection to innocence. And that's really the core of this bottom part of the pyramid. Connecting to innocence. Connecting to innocence means. Loving ourselves no matter what. No matter what we said, what we did. Loving ourselves through those judgments. And here's the thing. What does that mean? In essence, it's it's the best way I know is to characterize it, make it into a character. And the character is the most perfectly loving, maternal voice you can imagine, right? For a lot of people, it's like a southern mother. I don't know why. In any case, it's that voice that goes like, oh, honey, honey, don't you see?

Daniel Aaron:
You just didn't know any better. You were just doing the best you could. Oh, honey. It's okay. Right? That's innocence. That's realizing that everything that we did before, or whatever it is that we judge ourselves for, that, even that judgment itself, we're only doing that. We're only hurting ourselves because we didn't realize, because we didn't know any better. And as soon as we can connect to that innocence, then, and we can let it go. Right. That's that. That letting it go. That's self-love. That's filling the holes in the bucket. That's creating the solid bedrock foundation for building the castle, for building ourselves, for creating ourselves. So with this woman who had gotten pregnant, got an abortion, felt embarrassed, ashamed. I asked her, I said, can I offer you something? With that? She said, sure. We'd establish some trust and some safety. I said, you know, if you can imagine it, if you speak to those mentors and tell them what happened, it's a healing for you and for them, right? Most importantly for her, because that part where she doesn't want to tell them. That's the sign, right? That's the indication of the self-judgment. Self-judgment is so powerful, right? Go back to like certain. Religious. Traditions, Catholicism, for instance, there is this concept of confession, right? And even the exercise I talked about that I've done in groups before. In a sense, it's like a confession, right? The challenge with that is that our own self can be so ruthless. Our own self judgment can be so fierce that we can go to confession. Right? Step into the confessional booth and speak out. Forgive me, father, for I have sinned. I did X, Y, and Z, and then the priest can say, say, ten Hail Marys and 14 Our fathers, and you are forgiven. You are clean in the eyes of God. And yet we can walk away, even do those things, and yet still feel guilty, right? Right. Not feel cleansed. Yet we do have the capacity for self-forgiveness. We have the capacity to hear that maternal voice. Honey, you didn't know any better.

Daniel Aaron:
You were just doing the best you could and let it go. And when we do that, we get a moment, maybe just a millisecond. Yeah, maybe more. More a few seconds, maybe minutes of like, ah, you know, it's kind of like that feeling when you've been in an argument with your partner and you're, you know. Yeah, everybody's had that right. And, you know, it's like it feels yucky and yucky and somehow you're caught in it. And then a certain point one of you goes like, oh my goodness, what are we doing? It's like, oh, hey, I'm sorry, I don't even know what we're arguing about anymore. Huh? And then maybe if it's one of those great moments, then the other person goes, yeah, me too. Huh? And then suddenly it's like this weight is lifted. Maybe there's a hug or whatever. It's like that when we let go of the self-judgment, when we allow the mouse to speak its piece and we're just saying, that's okay. It's okay that I thought that it's okay that I was diluted that way and just let it go. There's this moment of freedom. It's when we have the freedom that we automatically have love. It's when we have the freedom that then we can declare who we really are, right? We're not. We're not that mistake. We're not that judgment. As soon as we get free, we can create something different, right? So my invitation to her, the woman I was just describing, is to speak to them and share with them and say, you know, I was so embarrassed. I was afraid that you would hate me or you would judge me. I hated myself for it. I felt like an idiot. Whatever would be the authentic words for her and say, you know, I was afraid I disappointed you, right? And we don't know what their response would be. Pretty good chance, though, that they would say, oh, oh, honey, you were just doing the best you can. You could. Thank you for sharing with us about it. You know, maybe they say we forgive you, but maybe it's not. You know, maybe they realize it's not even for them to forgive.

Daniel Aaron:
For all of us, the forgiveness is for us, so powerful. So let's pause. One more thing, actually. Innocence, Right. Connecting to innocence again. Innocence is that maternal voice that says, oh, honey, you're just doing the best you could. Innocence is so powerful because it gives us a key to creation. What do I mean by that? Is what I mean is that all of us have the capacity to create everything we want, things we don't even know we want yet we can create anything. We also have the capacity to create what we don't want. It happens all the time. Happens to me, right? I say, okay, this is what I'm going to create. And then I look at the results that I got are not what I intended, not what I wanted. So. What happens then? Well, one thing that could happen is I could say, hey, how did I create that result that I don't like? Here's the slippery slope, the razor's edge. If I say, how did I create that thing I don't like? If I don't have the innocence, the forgiveness, the compassion, then what I quickly do have is blame. Criticism. Blaming myself. I don't like that. It's my fault. I'm bad. If, though I'm connected to the innocence, that sweet maternal voice, and I say, how did I create that right away? The subtext is I was doing the best I could and I mean to mess up. Then I could say, okay, well, I created it because I didn't plan or I didn't think about x, y, z. I spoke this, I didn't ask for help, whatever. I can see that. Actually, I did create that. Not good or bad, just not effective for what I really wanted. Razor's edge creation responsibility. It means not being a victim. It means knowing that everything in my life I have created flip side, innocence, forgiveness, self compassion, two of those together. Super power. That's the foundation of the bucket, right? Going back to the beginning of this conversation, the inverted pyramid Supreme Self Manifesto defining who we are at our best, who we are naturally, who we choose to be.

Daniel Aaron:
And over here, the daily activation, creation, cultivation of that supreme self. It's taking that manifesto and making it alive in life. All both together predicated on the foundation, compassionate self, forgiveness, innocence. Inviting the mouse to the mic. Hey y'all. Thank you so much for tuning in. I so appreciate that you're here with me. I appreciate this opportunity to share with you, to serve you, I love you. I love that you are interested in vibrancy and creating more vibrancy in your life. Not only does it change your life, it changes the world. Thank you so much again, I love you.

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