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Daniel Aaron:
What does it take to create a vibrant, thriving life? First, the sad news is that Thoreau was right. Most people are leading quiet lives of desperation, lacking in meaning, fulfillment, and vitality. But we choose more. We choose to create extraordinary lives and the art of vibrant living. Show entertains you with inspiration, empowerment and education to create your life into a masterpiece. It's time. Let's vibe up. Aloha, y'all. Welcome to the show. I am Daniel Aaron. I'm your host. And this is the Art of Vibrant Living show, which is, as you may know, you feel and it's already happening. It's all about you, your life, helping you live the most vibrant, extraordinary, fueled by passion and purpose. Life possible. And a lot is possible. We've got an amazing show today. I will tell you about our phenomenal guests in just a moment. First though, I hope that you one love the show that you get some great ideas, some information. Even better though I hope I encourage. I implore you to not only take in the information and the entertainment to also say, I'm going to take some some piece of inspiration, something that our guest shares with you, something that you can go I can apply that in my life. I could apply that in my life today or really soon, because that's where the rubber meets the road. It's all about not just the education that's cool. It's about the actions you take that are inspired by what you learn here. And on that note, if you are feeling right now like that, you're not living your most amazing life possible and you would like some help with that, please reach out, because that's what I do. That's what I do as a vibrant life coach, is I help people to create their most amazing lives, to solve problems, to create a future that's super compelling now. Today's guest is a phenomenal woman. Like as we were talking a moment ago, like, all the things that she's doing alone is amazing, that she's taken the time to be here with us. So Gurpreet Juneja is got a phenomenal story. I'll let her tell more of that. But she's spent a lot of time in the corporate world working with leaders, transforming lives, helping people live there, their leadership potential there, helping them to inspire others, bring their values into their work. She's also a best selling author. She's the visionary founder of Cosmo Being. Did you hear that Cosmo being like, doesn't that just city like, what's that? I need to know more. We'll know more in just a minute. And she's also a mother, a wife and a dog owner, so she's got the whole package going. And we are super lucky to have her here with us. Gurpreet, thank you so much for joining us. Welcome to the show.

Gurpreet Juneja:
It's a pleasure to be here. Thank you so much for having me. Daniel. Here. It's it's an honor.

Daniel Aaron:
Oh, well, it's it's it's it's a blessing that you're here. I know, like, already I feel pressured on time because you've got so much to share. But let me take a breath. I'll step back. So before we dive in, because I've got 482 questions to ask you. First, though, would you say a little bit about how you got here? What's your journey been? And, you know, and as, as someone who's been a corporate leader who's now, you know, stepped out and is founding her own business and really empire, I would say, while still keeping work going in that world and serving in that way. How do you do it all and what got you to this point in your life?

Gurpreet Juneja:
Absolutely. Thank you. Daniel. First of all, I want to really acknowledge this amazing show that you run because I am so humbled to be here and the the difference it's making in everybody's lives. I mean, I was so moved. I have moved, been moved so much by the stories that have been shared in this show. So thank you for having me here. And yes, to to your question, um, what? Well, I guess I'll go all the way back and then come fast forward. Come back to today. Ever since I guess I was born or I realized my existence, I always questioned, what? What am I here for? What's my purpose? And I was always an outlier. Just could never fit in. Be it a friend circle, be it my family and I have a huge family. I'm from India, so you know, Indian culture, we have very, very big families and I love family. I love everybody and they all love me, but I just could never fit in. And then of course, I got married into a family which is also very closely knit, tight, you know, bonded family. But then again, had my challenges there too. So I guess I would say that, you know, even though I was seeking the answers, I just never got the answers until I hit rock bottom when I decided to go within because there was just no way to go outside. And I was quite literally in a place of do or die. And when I say that, I mean I was completely socially disowned by my own community, by my culture, by my families. And I don't mean like, you know, yes, they were still keeping the ties in the sense I wasn't like my husband was not like, oh, you, you leave me or walk out of the house or anything, but it was just we were we were together with a thread and it was all falling apart for me. Everything. My relationship with my kids, they just could never connect with me at a deeper level that I wanted. Every everything just seemed so fake and superficial and, and, you know, out there just for the sake of not because I wanted it or not because they wanted me in their life, but just because I'm their mother, you know, or I'm a wife or I'm a sister or I'm a daughter.

Gurpreet Juneja:
And to me, I didn't want it to be an obligation in a relationship. I wanted to be someone where I am making a difference in their life, and my existence matters to them, and their existence matters to me. And I could clearly see that was not the case. You know, I didn't love myself. I didn't like who I would see in the mirror. So I had to understand who is it that I really wanted to see in the mirror? Who am I and what do I really want? And that's when, you know, I essentially started having, you know, a calling, I call it it was it was a point I had I had a spiritual guru I was following. I have I've been very religious my entire life. I've always had, you know, religious vows I have stick to. And I was very, very, very strict about it, very strict. I would really be so disciplined that I would hold everybody accountable, including myself. But what I didn't realize that in that process, I ended up hurting more people than actually offering what, what the religion was really teaching me. And. And then one day I had this vision. While I was meditating. I was just sitting and I was really trying to figure out. And I've had many, many, many days where I would just be crying my heart out and I'd just be like, I don't know what to do. I don't know where to go. I don't know what is, you know, in front of me. And I would lock myself up in the room and my kids would wonder what happened to mom, what's going on? And Paul kept wondering. My husband kept wondering if our married life is falling apart. And I didn't know myself because I was falling apart. I just didn't know what, what, what was going to come next. And that's when I had this vision where I saw myself walking out of the tunnel, the dark tunnel. And on the other side, it's this bright sun, this beautiful sun that I can't even see, you know, I can't even gaze on it. It's just so bright. And I had to kind of close my eyes, you know, through my elbow.

Gurpreet Juneja:
And I hear the calling that. And actually, this was my spiritual leader who was holding my hand and walking me outside of the tunnel and said, from this point forward, it's your own path. You have to create your path. And I was like, wait, what? What do I do? Like, I have always had spiritual leaders in my life. That's how I was raised. You know, I've always had one guru after another guru after another guru. And of course, you know, we have a holy book, like a Bible, you know, in our in our religion, I'm from a Sikh religion and you kind of follow that. I had memorized the entire book before I was 22 years old. And, um, and I would sing hymns in, in my church, in my temple. But. It's just I could feel the vacuum. It was just not going in. It was just so hollow. And obviously I wasn't living up to it at all. And and so when I had this dream, I went to so many leaders, spiritual leaders, and I asked them the meaning of this, what does this mean? And they're like, well, you know, you just you just whatever you're doing, just keep doing and you know, it'll be fine. It'll be clear. And nobody and everything that was told to me, there was this voice that I started hearing that kept telling me, don't believe that. And I was like, wait, what? Like, I heard this weird voice in me all the time, and it would tell me what to believe and what not to believe, which was so bizarre because I would always look around and be like, oh my God, are people hearing this? Like, can anybody else hear it? Or is it just me? Am I just being a weirdo? Like, am I going nuts? Am I going mad? Or something is happening? Like, am I losing my mind? Literally, quite literally, I would hear it so loud and clear in my head that anything would be said to me. And and it would. The voice would say, oh, that's BS. Don't believe that. Oh yeah. See, now that's something you should try.

Gurpreet Juneja:
And I was like, okay, like, what is this voice and what is it trying to tell me? So, you know, I really believe that at that time it was a very hard time, even though it sounds really like, oh my God, you know, that's excitement. And, you know, there's something different. But no, that's not what I felt. I felt completely insane. I felt this and I actually talk about talk about it in one of my books, you know, on Purpose women book where my I could gradually over the course of time, I realized that actually my heart and my mind, my intellectual mind was actually our ego mind, as we call it, was actually fighting kind of, you know, in an argument like, okay, she's going to do this now. And the mind was like, oh, no, she's done it this way the whole time, and that's how it's going to be. And my heart was like, well, that's enough of it. She's not going to get anything out of it. If she keeps doing this, fine. Sure. She's not going to find any happiness, just like all these previous years. She'll still be seeking and she'll always stay in that mode. And I was just I felt like. And there was this third part of me just watching and observing, you know, it's like, wow, what's going on? Am I the dreamer or am I the dream? Who am I? I don't know. And and then, of course, you know, I it was, it was just like an onion peel. You know, you spend time with yourself. I had to sit with my own darkness. I had to understand. Who Guthfrith was and what she really wanted and where she wanted to go in life. And it kind of unfolded a lot for me, which then made me realize what my real purpose, it actually showed me what I meant to be. What I meant to be and what I'm here for. And that's what my business, my company that also was shown to me, Cosmo being actually was given to me. It was gifted to me. It's not something I can claim that it's mine. It is mine.

Gurpreet Juneja:
But it wasn't invented by me. It was the vision that came to me that we are cosmic beings and we under live our purpose, under live ourselves, because we don't tap into our own powers and see who we truly are. And that's who we are. We are the cosmic beings. We are connected. So that's that's about it.

Daniel Aaron:
Wow wow wow. That's awesome. Amazing. I love so much of what you said. A couple of things come to mind, and a couple more questions come from me with that. One is. I remember you and you used the phrase rock bottom, and I'll come back to that in a minute. I remember for me, shortly after one of my most solid, hardest rock bottom moments, I heard, I heard this phrase. When we speak to God, it's called prayer. When God speaks back, it's called mental illness. Right. And so, you know, even even here now, you know, like, I appreciate you were saying it with some humor. Like, I heard this voice and, like, is anybody else hearing it? What's going on? Right. And that's like, so, so foreign to us in the world, especially in the West. Right. Because because we've got this long tradition and we could I could go on for hours about why that is, but this tradition that only certain people are allowed to hear the voice of the divine, whatever format we call it. But if an ordinary person, you know, a Brit or a Daniel hear that voice, well, I don't know. That's not so. You know, I love that you shared that experience, you know, in such a real and grounded way. And the other thing that comes to mind is one of my favorite quotations that I'm sure you know, it's not really a quotation, it's a saying, but it's the the guru says to the disciple, you have three tasks. Your first task is to find me. Your second task is to love me. And your third task is to leave me. Right. And what I've seen in my journey is so many of us who find a guru, right? And for those who are not familiar with that terminology or that world, you know, just somebody who's who's awakened to some degree, somebody who has achieved something that we admire. Somebody who sees more of our potential. Just that's some ways you could define guru. But, you know, so many of us get enamored by the guru, or we've been trained by maybe false prophets that say, no, you should never leave me.

Daniel Aaron:
If you leave me, bad things will happen, right? So there's a there's a lot loaded in that moment of you saying, you know, getting that that message, it's time for you to walk on your own, time for you to move forward and create your own path. So I really commend you on on the courage. Right. Because a lot of people never, never do that. Um, so and then that leads me to you anthologized us there a bit. You talked about this kind of dark time, like, I'm so I'm so invested in Dark Night of the soul or Rock bottom that actually put a chapter in my book called Rock bottom. And in it I describe me being faced down on a, you know, we would call it an insane asylum floor, you know, crying, my face smushed against the floor. So I've got my own versions of rock bottom, but would you, you know, would you be up for saying more about what was going on? Because as you said that I was like, well, what happened? If that's fitting for you, you know, and because and I'd like to know also with that more of like how did how did you shift how did you get out of that.

Gurpreet Juneja:
Absolutely. Yeah. I mean, Rock Bottom and Dark Night of the soul has been such an important part of this journey. How can I not talk about that? Right? To me, rock bottom was when every relationship just seemed so fake and it just seemed everything in life just seemed so fake. Getting a car. You know, I wasn't born in United States. I come from a country that is not so privileged. I have seen life on the other side and I came here to create a life. Then I did. I came on a full scholarship. I came as a student. I found an amazing job. I was doing great. I was making the money. I got the house. I got an amazing husband, loving husband. I got the kids. I had an amazing family. We would party. We would. I mean, an amazing life, you know? But deep inside I kept feeling, is this it? Is this what life is, or is there a deeper meaning to it? Because to me, that was very fake. I wasn't living to what I would want to live for. You know, like every day I would get up and everything just seemed so mundane. Why was I not excited to raise my kids? I was not excited. I was not excited to go to my job. I was not excited to be part of this. You know, culture or to be part of, you know, just wherever I was, be it a family, be it the culture, be it the country, be it the universe. I was excited about my life, you know. And yet here I had everything. I had the right great car. I had an amazing house, everything. So to me, rock bottom was when I was not happy inside, even though I had everything materialistic that you would say. Checklist item. You know what people look for to be happy. Well, guess what I found out. That's not what brings happiness. The real happiness is something else. Real happy. And I come from a culture where it's all it's all about serving people.

Gurpreet Juneja:
It's all about being of service, making a difference in somebody else's lives. I got to a point where I was able to make a difference, because now I had money to offer to give to people, and I was doing that too. Yet here I was not happy because when I was doing that, it wasn't coming from a place of giving. It was coming from a place of ego. Everything I was doing as a person was me from this, from my mind, and I felt like I had disconnected myself from the rest of my existence. And the most important part of which is my heart. Even though you know you have the love for your children and you have all of that. But I feel like with parenting as well, I think I was dictating them. I was owning them more than parenting them more than, you know, like parenting to me is like gardening. It's about nurturing right now. I understand that back then I never understood because I had all this cultural baggage I was carrying with myself. And I don't want to blame my culture or my parents for anything. But yet I know there were there were a lot of things that I was doing because that's how I had seen them. Doesn't mean that that was right. Or does it mean that they were wrong? It's just that it wasn't working for me. It didn't work for me. And rock bottom to me meant that that that soul connection I wanted with my kids, I didn't have that. I didn't have that soul connection with my spouse. I didn't have that soul connection with the people I was interacting with, be it at my work. And I wanted those authentic, real relations relationships in my life. I didn't want just hello, hi. And, you know, casual talk like, oh yeah, how are you doing? And, you know, oh, I'm so good. I'm or I'm having a bad day. No, I didn't want that. I wanted authentic, real relationships. I wanted people to see me for who I am. And I wanted to see people for who they are, their real faces. Doesn't matter how ugly we are, doesn't matter.

Gurpreet Juneja:
And I felt like I couldn't see it because I wasn't showing mine to begin with. I was an authentic to my own self. I couldn't see myself in the mirror and admit my flaws. Yet alone show them to the world. And that was my dark night because I had to cover myself up. I had to be someone else. When I would step out and I had to show like, oh, I have everything, so I'm happy. Yet here I wasn't. That to me was rock bottom. That to me was something that I needed to unlearn and unload myself from all that I had acquired to actually find me who was buried underneath somewhere. Trying to breathe, hoping that one day I would be unburdened. One day I would come alive and be who I truly am. And so that was my calling. That's where I felt I wanted authentic authenticity in my life and in every relationship that I have. It doesn't have to be million people, even if it is ten people. I'm happy with it, but I want it. Authenticity. I wanted my kids to be happy to see me. Not because, oh, you know, you know how they say like the cat is away and mice will play? That's how literally my kids would feel for me. And you know, and I know I mean you, no matter how we talk about it, you know, with teenage kids at home, you would think like, well, teenagers always feel that way for their parents. Not no, not anymore. You know, my kids want to hang out with me. They want to be with me now. They want to. They want they miss me when I go. They call me million times. They message me. And I have to tell them, can you, can you stop? Like, I'm really busy right now, honey, you know. And I want to be a joy, a real joy around people. And I want people to find their own joy to be happy. And I found it. I had to do a lot of digging, you know, and that meant a lot of lonely hours of really uncovering my own truth, which meant to me, it meant seeing my own darkness, seeing things that made me jealous, seeing things that made me vulnerable.

Gurpreet Juneja:
Seeing things that hurt me. Why do they hurt me when somebody else says something, or somebody else got something or does something? Why it shouldn't bother me. There must be something I need to do. There must be some healing I need somewhere. So there were a lot of long hours of sitting with myself and I kept. I had to keep my family away because I wasn't at a level to serve them. And thankfully this, this, they they stuck around with me, you know, they were okay with me taking that time for myself because, I mean, I made it clear to my kids and my husband that I cannot give from a place of from an empty place. I have to first fill my cup and find who really I am to be able to help them or be a part of their lives. And and I think it's so important for us as a human being to really find who we really are. Because. You know, knowing our strengths and knowing our weaknesses is one thing, but really understanding every single thought that we get, why we get it? What place does it come from? How do we feel about it? Why do we feel about it that way? And if you don't like it, maybe change it. Where does that change come from? That all is knowing is. You know, I call it no knowing thyself. That's that's what needed to happen for me. And and I'm so grateful that all that hard work paid off because the, you know, the grass is not greener or was not greener at the other side. And it's much different now. For sure. So.

Daniel Aaron:
That's beautiful. Thank you. I appreciate you sharing that with us and you know, and being vulnerable about that. And. You know, there's this classic expression that everybody knows that money can't buy happiness. And we could debate that. But everybody knows that money can't buy happiness, but they want to find out for themselves. Right. And so you coming from, you know, a culture where there's a lot of poverty, right, to then making it and, you know, and I commend you on the bravery of, of that. That's a huge thing, right? To leave the familiar, your, your country, your culture and to come over here and use the resources that you have and get ahead and then get the American dream. And then to realize it's not really working, it's not fulfilling me. I'm not happy. Well, that must have taken a lot of courage, too, because they would have had to be some voice in your head that says, come on, are you? You know, don't be ungrateful. Look at all that you have and you should be happy with all this. And so a couple of questions that come from that. You said that you had to keep your family at a distance or something like that. In that process. Will you say more? What did that mean for you?

Gurpreet Juneja:
So for me, it meant I took some time off from work and I just had to really sit with myself, you know, like literally I would not. So we have this thing now where we have a family time every day. It's I mean, of course there's dinner time, but then there's a separate family time. And we didn't I would not spend much time with my kids or my family, actually. You know, in all honesty, because I was not authentic and because I was at a very unhappy place, all I could give people was unhappiness. I wasn't giving anybody happiness. And and because I couldn't give any happiness, there was not too much I had to do because people would just be like, whatever, let's leave her alone, you know? And so I didn't have to do much effort there because my, my doing had already done it. You know, my being had already done it for me. My being at that back then had already created that room for me where I was alone, I was lonely, and I was I was alone in a family of like, if I count all my family members that we are like probably 50 plus. But I was yet alone, I was alone, I was so lonely. And and so finding that place for myself was not hard because I just go lock myself up in the room. And I had some tools that I used back then, you know, to to kind of understand and unravel and unfold myself. And I like I said, I, I do get visions, I get callings, and I would I would be guided to do certain things. And I since then I have been on this journey of transformation where I'm either learning a tool or learning a skill or, you know, doing something to kind of, you know, get better at who I am and being more of myself and, and I that's exactly what I also teach in my Cosmo, being in my, in my organization. And the programs I offer are based around that. You know, like recently, there's this heartmath that I've done, Heartmath Resilience Advantage certification that I've done. And I offer that how to connect with your heart and how to actually tap into your own power here, your own souls calling and understand.

Gurpreet Juneja:
And this is all research based scientific because, you know, I have patents with the government. I have very strong analytical mind. So my analytical mind would not let me go through anything unless it was satisfied that it got what it needed, you know. So, so. Not that everything I did was research based a lot of the things I did because I felt called to them. But a lot of the things I offer are research based, evidence based, proven to really help you understand, transform, catch your own thoughts and how to bring change in your own life. A desired sustainable change. And in the process also what I realized was, you know, we. We tend to. Really. Kind of undervalue ourselves, and we really live in a small bubble of the understanding about ourselves, of who we are as a self, you know, with a s as a small s, right? Not realizing. That this small self can only do so much, can only offer so much, not just for their own betterment, but also for the betterment of the society we live in and how much more there is out there that we could. Tap into. And unleash for ourselves and for the people around us who we love the most. And bring a difference in our lives and in their lives. But you know what? The change always begins from home. And this is the home. Change begins here. So I feel it's so worth spending that time and understanding and bringing that change. Because leaders are not just always who lead from the back. Leaders are also who jump in first. There's always two ways to it. That's what I believe in.

Daniel Aaron:
Well that's beautiful. Thank you. You know, part of what I got from your sharing there is that you think this is maybe a key point and worth bringing out for. There's got to be somebody in the audience and probably more than one person who has maybe recently, maybe currently or at some point gotten to the point, like, I don't I don't like who I am. I don't like the way I'm showing up in the world. I don't feel like I have value to bring to people, you know, and what you describe is in that period, it must have been so hard and challenging to especially as a, as a mother. Like, I don't like what I'm bringing to my children. I think of Byron Katie, one of the great spiritual leaders of our time. You know, she tells the story of her awakening, which was she was so, so depressed and had so little regard for herself. She checked into a halfway house, and she didn't even feel like she deserved to sleep on the cot. So she was laying on the floor, right? Like that low level of self esteem. And then she had a miraculous experience, right? She, she had a cockroach crawls across her hand and then boom, she wakes up and all the pain and the illusion is gone. You know, some people would call that a walk in or a sudden enlightenment. Most of us don't have that kind of thing. What what I am sensing from what you said, though, is, is similarly, you didn't instantly have all of your self doubt or problems or undervaluing of self that didn't all disappear instantly. What what's been most helpful for you? How did you turn things around?

Gurpreet Juneja:
Yeah, I was so my entire childhood I was very insecure because academically I wasn't very gifted. And being a girl, the first child as a girl, I was raised with a lot of. Believe patterns are limiting patterns of how a girl is not capable of everything. And and kind of girls kind of bring shame to family in some ways. Um, again, I would not want to put it on my parents because I don't think it was. They were naive to that. And I have a beautiful relationship with my mom and dad, and but they were raised that way and my grandma was raised that way, you know? So that was really a cultural baggage we all were carrying, you know, for, for generations, who knows how long. And. So for me, always seeking that attention from outside and that validation of my existence, I was getting sick and tired of it because I wasn't getting it anymore. And making having the money and the house and the spouse and the family and the kids and everything. Still, I was at the same place. I was stagnant. I was still seeking that validation. I was still seeking that security in myself that I am something, I am someone, and and I was so full of myself, but yet here, so empty. So for me, it was really time to understand. Where do I find? Where do I fill that emptiness? And I really took a lot of support of my religion, my my culture in the sense that, you know, you go back to your basics, really. And, and to me, that was it when I was taught or when I was, you know, shown this way of finding your own path? Oh, my God, I was I was like, so scared. I cannot begin to tell you, like I did not want to embrace it. And I kept ignoring it. I kept going back to my spiritual leader, and I kept getting the message on and on and on, again and again and again. And the more I would not follow it, the more of the more I would get caught up in the illusions in the sense I would. So ever since I was born as a child, I always feared miscommunication.

Gurpreet Juneja:
You know, my my dad and his brother would have a miscommunication or anger issue or something, you know, some some misunderstanding and I would just fear it. I would always fear it from from the times I can remember, I always questioned, why can't we all just live in peace and love? Just that's just to me, you know, like in Bollywood movies, they always show happy endings and, you know, they always have this and they lived happily ever after. I always believed in it as a child, like, why can we not live happily ever after? Why can't we? Why are there problems? And so I would always question it ever since as a child and and to me it was really important that that belief that I had of happily ever after, I had to I believed in it. I believed that it exists. I just can't see it. I can't get to it. I don't see it in people's lives, or I wasn't seeing it at the time. And I to me, I had to work to get to that. And what really worked for me was always. Holding myself, you know, kind of always questioning and not being comfortable. I think that was my biggest thing, which was a gift my dad gave me. He always even though, you know, I was raised as a girl or whatever, but he they got a point in our lives where he believed in me. And he sent me to United States, 30,000 miles away from home, all by myself, believing in me. And he told me that, you know, if you believe in something, you will accomplish it. But if you don't believe it, then don't. Don't worry. It'll never happen. So to me that happily ever after was something I believed, even though I watched that, you know, those movies, like when I was ever since I was three years old, right? And that just got registered in my head that something happily ever after exists. How can I get to it? And I just kept coming back to that. I kept questioning over and over and over again, and I would try to do things differently. And don't get me wrong, I made lots of mistakes.

Gurpreet Juneja:
Lots of them. Oh my God, my pot is full. My pot is full of mistakes. But I don't call them mistakes. I call them opportunities of growth. They were opportunities of growth. Had I not hit into those walls, I wouldn't have been here today where I am. And I'm super grateful for those lessons and those mistakes I made. Because the more I questioned, the more another path opened for me and I walked and I made a mistake. And then another path opened and I made another mistake. And then another path opened. Right. And I call it like I'm a hike, a hiker, I'm a hiker, I hike a lot. And and it's almost like that, you know, when you look for trail signs and sometimes you run into the wrong ways. But really, there are no wrong ways. There are no wrong ways. Life is always teaching us something or the other. Success is not. That's my definition. Success is not about how many. You know, wins you have had in life. Success is not about how much money or the materialistic things I have. Success to me is more about how much have I succeeded in being my true self, in living my truth, finding my purpose, making the difference I am supposed to make in this world for the people around me. And to me. Most of us are unhappy because we are not able to do that. We are not able to find our own value, our own worth for who we are. In. And if you keep coming back to always being uncomfortable, all of this questioning, I mean, I'm not saying where I am today is my destination or by no means I am still. You know, on a journey. And I know ten years from now I grow every single day. And I believe if we question our comfort every single day, be it a simple thing like getting off of the bed. Or going and, you know, going into the bathroom and brushing and showering. Question just change things around a little bit. Change things around a little bit. What if I first brush and then go take a shower or first shower and then go brush my teeth?

Gurpreet Juneja:
Why be comfortable with ourselves and challenge, but then also not doing it because to make ourselves uneasy, but doing it because we love ourselves passionately. Because we cannot love others if we cannot love ourselves. Self love is the most important thing. Then I learned it the hard way. Really? I was coming from a place of zero compassion for myself, zero self-love. And I wanted to offer all this love to my kids. Well, it wasn't working. They didn't want me around at all. My seven year old daughter told me on my face, I don't know what I did to be here with you, mom. Yeah. And that broke my heart. That broke my heart.

Daniel Aaron:
Mm. Yeah. Well that's that's super intense. And again I really I commend you one on again on your, your vulnerability and sharing that because I know that we've all had experiences like that maybe not exactly the same but to but I also commend you on what you did with that. The way I hear it anyway is that. You know, so your daughter saying that. And I'm sure there are plenty of other examples for you and for all of us. It broke your heart, right? And part of what that did also, though, is, is open you up and you use that as an opportunity to look within and to try something different. And. You know, what so many people do in the world is when things aren't working or when they're not feeling good, they become like the frog in the proverbial hot water and just get used to it. And that's just that's the mainstream way of of life is like, yeah, that's how it is, or that's how I am. Yeah, I can't complain. It's not so great. But, you know, don't set your sights too high. And that's kind of one of my main soapbox items is like, hey, there's a whole nother world out there. Don't settle for that. So I just love that you, I mean, have the courage to face those really difficult moments and and to insist on going forward. And and you just talked about some, I think some, some cool little strategies there of like we'll do something different, change it up, maybe brush your teeth and then shower, shower, then brush your teeth, you know, so what else? You know, because time's ticking along now. And I know you've you've got tremendous experience. You've you mentioned I don't know if you use the words, but you mentioned Heartmath a little while ago and the, the science around that. And I know you've done work with, with Neurosolutions. So what do you feel like now and when you work with people and when you serve people, what are the and maybe for yourself even what are the most effective tools? What do you recommend for people who maybe are waking up in the same way and going like, yeah, man, I need to, I need to shake it up. I need to change things. I'm not going to settle for this anymore.

Gurpreet Juneja:
Yeah I would. So first thing I would say is that. Well, congratulations if you feel that way. Because you you know, I feel that that's almost like waking up to a new life, to a new world. It's a rebirth. It's a birthing process. So be ready, because birthing process is never easy. You know, as an adult, we all know whether it's a woman carrying a child or a father who's going to help raise a child. Birthing is never easy, but it brings a lot of joy with it along with the pain. But those are growing pains. That's a good news. We are only going to grow. There is no way around it, you know, we don't go backwards. We just don't. We only grow and we grow in our own power. So to me, the way I look at it is. If you are waking up and you want to change something in your life. Then first thing is understanding what is it that brings you joy, that brings you happiness? What is what is one thing that you are passionate about? In my case, it was my kids. I wanted to see my kids happy and I wasn't able to give them that happiness. That's really all what transpired, my transformation. And then of course, it was an onion peel. I wanted to be happy, but then my unhappiness was impacting my kids in such a. Dramatic way that I just couldn't take it anymore. I had to do something right then and change things. So if you want to change things, what is one thing that makes you happy that you're passionate about? What is it that would wake you? Want you to wake up in the morning and be excited about life, you know, and then. And then I would suggest connecting. Once you find that passion connecting with your existence, your holistic existence, because we are not just our mind. We're not just our body. We are a combination of our mind, our body and our soul. We are three parts in one. And guess what? These three still are only vehicles like our body is just a vehicle.

Gurpreet Juneja:
We have to own it and we have to honor it. Same for our mind. You know, there's a saying. Mind is a great servant, but a terrible master. But yet here our minds rule us. They rule our lives. Our mind will tell us to do certain things. And our body will dictate a lot of the times. My body, you know, I would want to go out to the gym. It's so cold. It's snowing here. I'm in Colorado. It's not snowing today, but it was snowing a couple days ago. And you know, my body goes like, I don't want to go work out. It's too cold, you know? But that's when we say mind over matter. You know what is what is really genuinely that I am seeking for as an individual, as a person, what do I really want to change in my life? So I find my passion. I find what I want to change in my life because I'm a three part person. I'm not just one. I am this multi-dimensional being. I am not here for my 8 to 5 job. Yes. That's there. I need a living because I want to create something beautiful. Most of us get into jobs not because at least that's not how we start. We don't start because, well, I don't know. Maybe we do because we want to make money. But I think a lot of the times we start because we want to have fun, we want to explore something different. We want to use our brains. We want to create something. I mean, you should look at these young generation when they get into the workforce. They're so excited to create something new, to do something new. And then they get into this whole bureaucracy of how organizations run and the society runs and everything. And then there it becomes we all become cookie cutters. We we lose our uniqueness, you know? So so I think it's so important to tapping into your passion, finding what I do want to change in, in my life. And I would say start with start with something small to medium sized that you want to change, not something too big because you're going this at this for the first time.

Gurpreet Juneja:
So so find something small that you want to change in your life. And then comes the most beautiful part. Tap into your wholeness. Tap into your mind. Make a mind map. What does your mind think about it and then make a heart map. What does your heart feel about it? How does it feel? Because we either live from here or we live from here. But what our true power lies in tapping into both being coherent in our mind and our body. And that's when we are so centered, that's tapping into our the most creative center. And that's actually scientifically proven. I'm not just making this up. You know, this is all scientifically proven. So for all those intellectuals out there like me, you know, who are just thinking, oh, wait a minute, what does that mean? You know? Yes. Please Google it if you need to or go to heartmath.org and you will find it. When you are coherent, that's when you tap into the most the biggest part of your brain. The frontal lobe, the the neocortex. It's called. And that is our creative center. When we are not coherent, when we cannot tap into our brain and our heart together, we are out of balance. When we are out of balance. We can find the most ideal solutions, and that's the moment when we start feeling, wait a minute, maybe I shouldn't have written that email. Maybe I shouldn't have said that to my daughter. You know, and I had a lot of those moments before. You know, but things are much different on the other side. Like I said, it's less regret and more joy. It's less, you know. Falling on your face and more looking up. Uplifting not just yourself, but the people around you, showing them their own power. Because we all are powerful beings. Only if he knew that.

Daniel Aaron:
Indeed. Well that's beautiful. Thank you for sharing all that. And you know, part of what I take from what you said is, I think, worth pulling out and echoing a little bit the keys to transformation to human behavior, the pain. Right. And you described a bit of, well, you described a lot of how things got painful for you. And that was like, I don't want to live this way. I don't want to be such that my daughter would say that to me. I need to change who I am so that that pain is a great, you know, kick in the ass to say I need to change. And that gives us the courage, the commitment to go beyond what's familiar. And then you also brought in the wisdom of we need. We need the pleasure. We need the future, the compelling possibility of saying, well, what are you passionate about? What excites you? Right. And we really like to make sustainable transformation. We need both of those things. So I love that you clarified that that recipe, I would say for change and. Oh gosh, there's so much that we can talk about and all that you shared in time's clicking along though. So, Gurpreet, what's what what's the best way for people that are like, man, I want to connect with her more or work with her? What's what's the best way for people to get in touch with you?

Gurpreet Juneja:
Yeah, I mean I would I am on social media, I'm on Facebook, Instagram, Cosmo being Gurpreet Jamaica and then also my website. I have ways where people can reach out to me. Discovery call. I also have a gift that Daniella let you share with everybody, which is essentially a heartmath tool, and it's called quick coherence technique in Heartmath. And there's a lot of science behind it. A lot of great professionals use it, and it's very, very successful. And I have a little kind of a tweaked, improvised version of mine that worked for me, which I would like to share with everybody here who's watching us. It's. It helps you center yourself. So I use this technique on a daily basis every time, even right now, like as we're speaking, if I feel something that, oh, wait a minute, I am not coherent and and, you know, believe it, believe it or not, we get to a point in our lives where we know. We know when we are not coherent. We know when we are out of balance. And it's okay if we don't know, because it takes a knowing to know that too. And once we get to a point where we we know that we don't know, then it's time to know. You know, that we are not coherent. And and I'm sure when we are ready for that change, we will make that effort because we are just amazingly powerful beings. So when it's a choice, it's really a choice. And being able to create that choice point for us, for ourselves. Whether I choose to speak this way, if my teenager comes to me and has had a tough day and kind of tries to put all this energy on me, you know, and I have nothing to do with it, then it's. That pause. It creates a choice point for me before I react. I can choose what I want to do. So this tool I would suggest, is a great tool for those situations. When you're walking into the meetings, when you are in a setting where you know you may not enjoy the company of a person, or you might get triggered by certain things. It's a great tool to help you become coherent so you can tap into your power, your neocortex, your mind, and your heart all together and hear that voice.

Gurpreet Juneja:
Let that voice guide you. You know Steve Jobs. I watch his I watched his interview and a while back and he said. 89% of the successful people make their decisions based on intuition. What is this intuition? What is this gut feeling? This gut feeling is that voice that brought me, you know, into the existence of who God is today. You know, that initiated the birthing process for me. And and that's the voice we all need. We all want to hear. So being coherent is what gets us into tapping into that intuition, into tapping into that voice. So it's my absolute pleasure to share this tool with you all. Thank you.

Daniel Aaron:
Yeah. Beautiful. Thank you. So that's that's awesome. I put the URL the the web address in the comments. So those that are watching with us live now, it's in the comments. Or if you're watching it by rebroadcast, it's in the comments. For those of you all that are listening by rebroadcast, I'm going to say out the whole URL. It's a few, it's a few letters, a few words, and you can pause if you need to. But just so make sure you have it, because that is an incredible gift. And I'll echo what Gurpreet said, that the the reality of coherence or the reality of in coherence, which is often what we experience in life because we've gotten used to that. That's very much the norm in the world. It makes a really huge, massive difference in the way we are living in life, what we perceive, what we do. So to be able to train oneself to get into coherence is perhaps the most important practice that there is. So it's an incredible tool. And the URL, the address here is https colon forward slash forward slash attract. Well like you would think attract. Well like be good at attracting attract Welcome forward slash Cosmo being just like you'd think it would be spelled forward slash page forward slash master dash leadership. It's a mouthful, but since you are a Cosmo being and a bright being, I know you can handle that. Awesome. What a beautiful gift. Thank you so much for for sharing that, Gurpreet and I love that you have really taken your own rock bottom self-discovery, worked on your self, found more and more tools added in the science based learning around transformation, the neuroscience of it, and then made yourself into such a valuable gift and resource for people with that. So as we are ticking along and kind of up against the clock, so to speak, I would like to, with your permission, ask you the the big final question. Would that be okay, please? Okay. So it's an impossible question because you got so much experience, so much knowledge, so much to share. And we've just scratched the surface here. However, since it is impossible, you can't get it wrong. No expectations on it. And so the question is this given all of your vast experience and knowledge, if you had to boil it down to one thing to share with our audience, to help them to create their vibrant, thriving, amazing life, what would be the one thing that you would share?

Gurpreet Juneja:
I would say. You have been waiting for yourself. Show up for yourself. Because this world is waiting for you to shine your light. To be who you are. To tap into your power. And show others. So be that Statue of Liberty. Light your path so you can light the path of others.

Daniel Aaron:
Wow, I love that. Be that Statue of Liberty man. I'm going to take that one. That's so, you know, in liberty, meaning, you know, moksha, liberation, Liberty, like being freeing yourself is. That's what you've been waiting for. And I love the way you speak it so plainly that of course, it's possible for you. Even you, even me. It's possible for all of us, because it's our nature. So thank you, thank you, thank you so much for, you know, not just being here and taking the time, which is really valuable, but also for your courage, your vulnerability, for all the work that you've done to create yourself into such a vibrant, amazing being and then dedicating yourself to serving others. It's really a beautiful gift. And so super grateful that you chose to have this time with us. You know.

Gurpreet Juneja:
Super grateful to be here. Thank you so much, Daniel. It's a pleasure.

Daniel Aaron:
Awesome. Yeah. And y'all in our audience, thank you. Most of all because you are not like just everybody else and nothing against everybody else. But, you know, the mainstream just kind of getting by. You are enough interested in creating a vibrant, thriving, amazing life that you actually took some time to to get some education, some inspiration. And please again, don't leave it there. Don't stop. At that point, take the information and take just one nugget. There were 422in this episode alone. Take one nugget please, and apply it in your life. If you want some help with that, reach out. I would love to connect with you and offer you whatever kind of support I can. There's a lot of ways that are possible. Take one nugget, apply it in your life. Will be back again soon for another amazing show. And in the meantime, please make your life a masterpiece. See you later y'all! Aloha! Mahalo for tuning in to the Art of Vibrant Living show y'all! I'm Daniel Aaron and may you live with great vibrancy.

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